FAQ: How Do I Get Out of My Own Way?

FAQ: How Do I Get Out of My Own Way? I hear this question all the time: “How do I get out of my own way?” So many people come to me wanting to learn how to get out of their own way.  The problem is that they aren’t in their own way.  They aren’t […]

Does it Feel Like Home?

Does it Feel Like Home? Do you feel at home? A house is the structure we see from the outside. It becomes a home when we look within and feel the warmth that it’s full of. A home is full of love.  Enjoyment. Comfort. Respect. Caring. It’s an inviting and safe space to live, laugh […]

Unsettled: How to Deal with Collective Uncertainty (Especially COVID-19)

Unsettled: How to Deal with Collective Uncertainty (Especially COVID-19) I know a lot of you are struggling to deal with the uncertainty of COVID-19. A truth we rarely recognize is that we are unable to predict the future.  We don’t give much time or attention to that truth. But in the grip of COVID-19, we are […]

The Best Investment

The Best Investment What investment are you making for your future? How are you investing in your brain? We invest in our brains all the time. We just don’t think about it that way. When we buy books, workshops, programs, certifications and even degrees…. It’s because we want to strengthen our brains. We do it […]

Don’t Stop Growing Now…

Don’t Stop Growing Now…Settle Your Fears by Focusing on Growth Now, more than ever, is time to focus on growing.  Fear brain lives in the short term. A day or two ahead. That’s why we’ve seen panic buying. Fear brain being in charge. Fear brain trying to keep us safe in the midst of all […]

The Top Mindset Lessons I Learned as a Military Spouse

:….. The Top Mindset Lessons I Learned as a Military Spouse I became a military spouse at 24. When I married my husband I had absolutely no idea what I was getting myself into. I wasn’t raised around the military. I had no idea what to expect from the lifestyle. I just knew that I […]

Our Brains LOVE a Global Crisis…

Our Brains LOVE a Global Crisis… Our brains evolved to scan for danger, which can lead us to fixate on crisis. The problem is that we spend a lot of time WORRYING about the future and not LIVING in the present. So a great way to find some peace AND be in the present moment […]

LIE: I Don’t Have Time to Take Care of Myself

LIE: I Don’t Have Time to Take Care of Myself I’ve heard the like “I don’t have time to take care of myself” so many times that my eyes might get stuck in the back of my head on their next eye roll. I just can’t even  with this one any longer. We all have our […]

The Only Thing You Need to Feel Better

Stop Wishing. Here’s what you need to TRULY feel better: The only thing you need to feel better is YOU.  You don’t need to spend money on a solution. You don’t need to make more money. You don’t need to achieve another level of success. You don’t need another degree, credential, award or resume bullet. […]

How to Recover When You Think “I Made A Mistake”

How to Recover When You Think “I Made A Mistake” My brain wanted to tell me that I made a mistake. If you read no further than this: There are no such things as mistakes. Have you ever made a decision that ended up not being what you thought it would be?  Yeah…I just did […]

Mindset: What Beliefs Are Sabotaging Your Results?

Mindset: What Beliefs Are Sabotaging Your Results? Mindset is thrown around as a buzzword. When it’s used correctly, it’s a framework and intentional practice that helps you to rewrite the subconscious habits of thinking that are responsible for your current results in life and business. I help my clients make mindset a verb. When I […]

Get Better Results: Do These Two Things and Results Will Happen ​

Do These Two Things and Results Will Happen ​ I often get asked, “what should I do to get better results?” Our brain LOVES to overcomplicate success. But the honest truth is that creating desired results is simpler than we want to believe. Here’s two things that will bring you guaranteed results if you practice […]

How We Misuse Our Goals: Are You Practicing Goal Abuse?

How We Misuse Our Goals: Are You Practicing Goal Abuse? Everywhere I look I see how we misuse our goals. Far too often we use goals wrong: as a way to beat ourselves up rather than a direction for growth. I – personally – know this pattern well. I’ve set so many goals before. Taken […]

Creating Magic: How I Achieve My Goal

Creating Magic: How I Achieve My Goal When I learned how to create magic, it changed everything for how I achieve my goal (s). Think of your 2020 goal(s). Your brain is probably focused on HOW you will achieve it. The things you need to go and do, execute, scramble to figure out. Which often […]

New Years Resolutions: Not the Normal Hype

Not the Normal New Years Resolution Hype Saddle up, we’re talking New Years Resolutions today. But first, I MISSED YOU! I’ve taken a bit of a break to get settled and to get intentional…sorry I made a few of you worry! We are doing good and I have my bed finally. YAY. This move is […]

Starting Over: Being a Beginner Again

Starting Over: Being a Beginner Again I’ve found myself starting over, forced to be a beginner again now that we’re in Germany. Are you guys sick of hearing about my move to Germany yet? I sure hope not because if you stick with me, I promise there’s some good limitless life nuggets for you in […]

Accepting Discomfort

Accepting Discomfort: Finding Peace When Things Are Hard Accepting discomfort…sounds weird, but a critical lesson I’m learning yet again. It’s funny. You’d think that with as many times as I have moved I would be comfortable with how uncomfortable a move really is…but… I’ve found myself resisting the discomfort and uncertainty.  Arguing with it. Shoulding […]

Perception: You Perceive What You Believe

Perception: You Perceive What You Believe Nothing like an international move to help smack me right in the face with perception. It’s been a crazy couple weeks of minimal internet as we moved into our home in Germany and have been awaiting internet service, which was turned on yesterday (WHOO HOO!). It was a long […]

It’s Driving Me Crazy: Is it Though?

It’s Driving Me Crazy: Is it Though? Happy Veteran’s Day. I could not be more grateful for the brave and selfless men and women who serve our country. Well, it’s more than official. We now live in Germany. Me and my favorite active duty service member and our two dogs. We’re starting to get settled […]

Denial Robs Us of Clarity and Action

Denial Robs Us of Clarity and Action How is fear showing up as optimistic denial in your life?! Stick with me here. This concept can set you free. How are you avoiding change in your life because you entertain the thought that it will improve in time or with more money? All because of fear. […]

Money Beliefs: It’s NOT All About the Benjamins

Money Beliefs: It’s NOT All About the Benjamins How often do you use MONEY (or lack there of) as an EXCUSE for not having a better life? “‘If only I had more money’ is the easiest way to postpone the intense self-examination and decision-making necessary to create a life of enjoyment – now and not […]

The Talent Trap: You Either Have it or You Don’t, Right?

The Talent Trap: You Either Have it or You Don’t, Right? Talent…you either have it or you don’t right? You’re born with it. There’s a finite amount of talent in this world. Some people have it. And the rest of us can just settle for mediocrity because we’re the unlucky ones in the genetic lottery. […]

Far from Fearless: There’s No How to Be Fearless Offered Here

Far from Fearless Have you ever wanted to be fearless? Apparently people think that I hold the magical secret to a fearless life. More on that later. Holy bananas, it’s been a crazy couple weeks in the Frayne household. We celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary and my husband’s military promotion to E8. We also found out […]

How to Feel Fear: Resisting Your Feelings is Holding You Back

How to Feel Fear: Resisting Your Feelings is Holding You Back Knowing how to feel your fear will set you free. Fear is one of the least comfortable feelings to feel. But yet, it’s at the root of most of all our negative emotions. The only thing preventing me from having the life of my […]

Your Future Self

Your Future Self Your Future Self is you, in the future. It’s up to you to determine how that future will be. Will it be a default future, more of the same ol, same ol? Or will it be the future of your daydreams? Possibility Most of the time we don’t take action toward what […]

How Not to Be a Success Zombie: The Truth to Creating Change

How Not to Be a Success Zombie: The Truth to Creating Change You might be a Success Zombie and not even know it. Stick with me here, you’ll want to avoid being one. I know you might not be into math. But you NEED to know this equation. Knowledge + Action = CHANGE Sometimes we […]

Turning Off Autopilot: Where Are You Headed?

Turning Off Autopilot How often do you catch yourself drifting through life? Going through the motions? Feeling like you might just be living in Ground Hog day with Bill Murray? Is it time to start thinking about turning off autopilot? I’m back from vacation and have been digging deep into the planning and content creation […]

Probability Thinking: How We Allow Past Results to Dictate Our Future

Leaning Away From Probability Probability is one of the most limiting games our brain likes to play. Our brains like to lie to us and tell us that we are rational creatures. That we make decisions solely with logic. But everything we do in life is to feel or avoid feeling the emotions that we […]

My Annual Birthday Vision Exercise

My Vision Exercise is My Favorite Birthday Gift I just completed by annual birthday vision exercise because today’s my birthday!! I don’t usually make a big, public display of it. I usually allow it to fly mostly under the radar (although in my teens and 20s I was keen on celebrating my birthday week in […]

The Back to School Opportunity for Adults

Back to School Adult Style All around me friends’ kids are back to school or are getting really close to starting.  Besides parents being a buzz about how stressful back to back to school time is, there seems to be another buzz too.  Possibility. It’s a new year and we anticipate and expect our kids to grow.  […]

Making Change Simple

Change is more simple than you think! Our brains love to lie to us and tell us that we can’t change…that the solution to our problems is harder than it really is.  The truth in the matter is that the solution is always simple: it’s always what’s going on in that big beautiful brain of […]

Self Doubt and Mediocrity

How You’re Choosing a Mediocre Life Indulging in self-doubt is really just settling for mediocrity.  Let that sink in. “Settling is no fun. It’s a malignant habit, a slippery slope that takes you to mediocrity.” – Seth Godin I’m not sure you’ll ever get to the place where self doubt doesn’t creep in. Fear Brain […]

What Are Your Beliefs?

it all starts with a thought Beliefs are the most powerful component for creating a YES life. A thought is just a sentence in your mind. A belief is a thought that you’ve repeated in your mind enough that you forget that it was even a choice. The only thing holding you back from your […]

Where Confidence Comes From

the truth about confidence Confidence is a beautiful thing, it inspires action and feels fantastic. How often do you feel like you have to be awesome or perfect in something to feel confident? It’s a trap that we allow ourselves to fall into, because we don’t know the truth about self-confidence. The truth is, that […]

CASE STUDY: How She Found an Alternative to Choosing Between Her Mom and Fiancé

CASE STUDY: How She Found an Alternative to Choosing Between Her Mom and Fiancé   Please note: To protect the identity of the awesome, the Limitless Life Coaching Program Graduate will be referred to as Grad throughout this Case Study.    I couldn’t be more excited for the transformation this client had in her relationships […]

Creating a YES Life: A Life Full of Purpose & Passion

yesisms. Can I tell you how much I LOVE what I do? Each day I wake up to help busy folks create more peace, joy and freedom in their lives. How rad is that?!? And the deal gets even sweeter when members of the Limitless Life Tribe share how they’re creating their own YES lives. […]

Failure Avoidance

Desperate to Avoid Failure So often I meet people who aren’t even willing to try something new because they are terrified of failure. The reason is because they misunderstand what failure is, and why it’s there. But really, in the attempt to avoid failure, most people are choosing to fail ahead of time. They limit […]

Understanding the Role of Fear

do you need protection? Fear evolved as a form of protection. Our brain is a beautiful, complicated organ. We spend too much time giving it all our power. We over identify with our thoughts and think they are truth. Which is such a huge problem since Survival Brain rules with fear. An Important Role Sometimes […]

Change is Created with Action: Claim Your YES Life

will you claim your YES life? Most people want change, but aren’t willing to take action and claim it. Your potential for a YES life is there whether you claim it or not. Whether you show up for it or not. Whether you take action to create it or not. And the difference between your […]

Change Your Thoughts: Mindset is Everything

Change your thoughts: it’s not optional. It’s necessary. I cannot scream it loud enough.  Mindset is everything.  You take that big beautiful brain of yours everywhere you go.  Changing your thoughts is the most profound and sustainable way to create change in your life.  I love when business owners tell me they don’t need a […]

CASE STUDY: Sluggish Sales Professional Quadruples Income

CASE STUDY: Sluggish Sales Professional Quadruples Income Please note: To protect the identity of the awesome, the Limitless Life Coaching Program Graduate will be referred to as Grad throughout this Case Study.    I am so dang excited for one of my clients, a sales professional who pulled herself out of a major slump. We […]

Another Step Forward in My YES Life

today is the first day… I’ve taken another step forward… I am officially free y’all. Friday was my last day at my job. Today is the first “work day” where I’m my own boss. And I couldn’t be more excited for the awesomeness that I’m creating for you… there’s so many ideas and offerings in […]

Limitless Life Advice

Chasing MY YES LIFE… I’ve decided to go all in and I’m sharing my Limitless Life Advice! Some of you know that I have been working as a faculty member and coach at a university for nearly six years. This Friday is my last day. I’ve decided to go all in on my YES life. […]

How to Feel Better

I’m about to drop some Limitless Life Truths for How to Feel Better…but first… How are you doing this fabulous Memorial Day? I wanted to take a minute to acknowledge and appreciate those who have made the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom. As a military spouse I don’t take this lightly. Today I’m holding space […]

Shame Thrives in the Dark

The Coach Who Feels Shame Sometimes I get stuck in the thought that when I’m selling coaching there’s an aspirational quality to it. That it’s my job to help you see who you could become, and to hide away the parts of my life that distort that image. I do a lot of work to […]

The Importance of Daily Decisions

A Compound Effect Your daily decisions matter more than you give them credit for. The life you have today is the result of the sum of all the small, seemingly insignificant decisions you made in the past.  How “successful” you are. What you have achieved. How much you weigh. The quality of your relationships. How […]

Powerful Self Care: It’s No Longer Optional It’s Absolutely Necessary

How Do You Care for Yourself? There’s so much wonderful goodness going on around here. This past weekend nearly 30 women joined me for the Favorite Things Mother’s Day Luncheon in Brigham City. It was such a beautiful event, can’t wait to share the pictures. I was honored to hold space for these women while […]

The Difference Between Life Coaching and Therapy

Hey Dee: What is the Difference Between Coaching and Therapy? I was recently asked about the difference between life coaching and therapy, so I know that wasn’t the only person who was wondering. I think there’s absolutely a time and a space for both practices in helping people improve their mental health and wellness, but […]

Consistency IS the Magic Pill: The Secret for Creating a Better Life

We are desperate for things to change in our lives. We want the quick fix. What if consistency is the magic pill we have been seeking all along? Addicted to Instant Gratification Our society is addicted to the lie that our problems, and more specifically, the symptoms of our problems can be fixed by taking […]

Which Brain Are You Living In? (Part 2 of 2)

Say Hello to Human Brain. In part 1 I introduced you to Survival Brain, and in part two we’ll meet Human Brain.  Understanding your brain is the single most important things you can to in order to create change in your life.   While Survival Brain did incredible work getting us to this stage in […]

Which Brain Are You Living In? (Part 1 of 2)

Two Brains Did you know that you have two brains? Survival Brain and Human Brain. Well, technically you have one, buuuuuutttt….these two parts of your brain that you need to learn to be the lead in order to create a life without limits. Over the next two posts I’ll be introducing you to both parts, […]

The Truth About I Can’t

How often do you find yourself saying “I can’t?” I can’t do this, that…all or any of the things.   Can’t implies the inability to do something, the impossibility, the lack of skill or knowledge. Rarely are we ever in a position where we can’t. Most often we are in a a position where we won’t.  Your […]

The Difference Between Knowing and Feeling

Mental Emotional Disconnect There’s a huge difference between knowing and feeling, and I long struggled to overcome the disconnect. For many years I struggled with my self-worth, the remnants of an abusive upbringing. I didn’t think that I was good enough, worthy of love. It’s a problem that plagued me, and how I showed up […]

How Do You Measure Success?

Whose Yardstick Are You Using? Have you defined success for yourself, or are you using someone else’s definition? It’s crazy how many people I have met who have not taken the time to truly define success for themselves. These individuals typically compare themselves to everyone around them. They beat themselves up for falling short of […]

An Argument for Pain

It’s All a Big Lie. We shouldn’t feel pain. It’s a big lie, and I hear it mumbled by so many clients, and in nearly every direction I look. We’ve bought it, hook like and sinker and it causes us so much suffering. This toxic belief is that the pinnacle of wellbeing, the reward for […]

T with Dee: Now Brewing

Now Brewing: T with Dee!! Welcome to the FIRST EVER T with Dee!!! I love, love, love the intro for this new video series: Welcome to the first cup of T with Dee where we’ll be drinking in some big life truths along with some tea (that’s probably coffee, and may even be wine because […]

Your Self Talk Matters: How the Gym Helped Me Find My Blindspot

When’s the last time you checked in with your self-talk? I can’t believe that going to the gym helped me find my blindspot in my self-talk game. How often do you actually pay attention to the things you’re thinking about yourself? We have more than 60,000 thoughts a day that are driving our emotions, which […]

The REAL Reason You’re Tired All the Time

My clients regularly tell me that they are just so tired and yet they have no idea why. There’s a common misconception that they need more sleep. The real reason you’re tired all the time is probably not what you think and is something that you have control over changing once you know why it’s […]

The Truth About Self-Confidence

How often do you feel like you have to be awesome or perfect in something to feel confident? It’s a trap that we allow ourselves to fall into, because we don’t know the truth about self-confidence. The truth is, that self-confidence is not created from competence – from doing or achieving. It is created from […]

How to Feel Worthy in Five Steps

We all want to feel worthy. Worthiness feels great. But the problem is that we spend a lot of time not feeling worthy, believing that we are good enough to be happy. That we aren’t deserving.  Girl, I can’t scream it loud enough: You are worthy just as you are. You are enough. You are […]

How to Fix Life When You’ve Messed Up

Holy bananas. March was a shit show for me. I feel like I’ve completely messed up. As many of you know I’ve been traveling for the past couple months for doTERRA’s Diamond Club. While working my full time job. And holding down the fort while my husband’s been deployed. Needless to say I’ve nearly burnt […]

How Forgetting to Shampoo Led Me to an AHA! Moment

  The other day something crazy happened when my routine literally imploded. I got some pretty strange results that made me ridiculously aware of a routine that I usually pay zero attention to. It’s amazing what happens when we move against a well defined habit. Have you ever put conditioner in your hair before shampoo? […]

You Are Worthy: A Pep Talk for My Soul-Centered Friends

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I’m in serious need of a pep talk because I’m feeling like I’m not worthy of my goals. So, if that applies to you, here you go! If you want a better life you have to do it for yourself:  seriously, YOU are worthy of all the greatness […]

How to Make it Happen

Find Motivation Even When You’re Discouraged How often do you wish that things were different in your life? You know things need to change but finding yourself lacking the motivation to figure out what you want and to go after it? The overwhelming discouraged feeling keeps you stuck, unsure of yourself or even feeling unworthy […]

The Ultimate Fearless Mindset Hack

This is the last post in the series “The Fear Epidemic: Push Through Fear & Adopt a Fearless Attitude.” To see the first post click here. We all feel fear. The only difference is whether we allow it to cripple us into inaction. What you desire, what you truly want is on the other side […]

How to Adopt a Fearless Attitude

This is the third post in the series “The Fear Epidemic: Push Through Fear & Adopt a Fearless Attitude.” To see the first post click here or to see the final  post click here. Our society constantly reminds us to play small, to focus on inadequacies, to not believe that we are good enough or […]

How to Identify the Fears that Hold You Back

This is the second post in the series “The Fear Epidemic: Push Through Fears & Adopt a Fearless Attitude.” To see the next post click here. To see the first post click here.   How often do you take the time to recognize that your stress, busyness, anxiety or self-doubt come from the root of […]

The Fear Epidemic

How to Conquer Anxiety, Self-Doubt, Busyness & Stress This is the first post in the series “The Fear Epidemic: Push Through Fear & Adopt a Fearless Attitude.” To see the next post click here. Fear: it’s an evolutionary necessity that largely backfires in modern life. This alarm system, once protecting us from true dangers, now […]

How I Finally Ditched my Chronic Pain

Today was an incredible day for me in my chronic pain journey. I had an annual physical where I was able to tell them my pain level was a ZERO today. All of my labs and other metrics were perfect. For many this might not sound all that remarkable, but for me it’s almost unbelievable. […]

How to Say No and Get More From Life

Do you overextend yourself? Can’t say no? Have to help everyone who asks? You’re probably stressed, exhausted, feeling like crap, and running on empty. I was a chronic yes woman. I wanted to help everyone and be involved with as much as possible. I rarely said no to anyone, except to myself. I said no […]

From Fed Up to Fired Up

How many times have you wished that your life was different? Did you envision more for yourself? A life that was lit on fire because of purpose? Passion? Success? I’ve always struggled with these thoughts – of ultimately not living up to my potential. Feeling that I was falling short, that I was wasting my […]

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